About Christianity

'you do not know how i truly feel, and yet everyone still acts this way - that there must be a solution, a way out. if there were one, i would have taken it long ago. i find such ignorance to be disgusting. you are trying to understand what is happening without knowing half the facts.'

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i guess this must be roughly the same as the post 'you understand nothing'. when i came across these words that the girl said to another boy, i thought, this really applies to practically all of us. at one point or another, we would have been like the girl, and at another point, like the boy. not being understood. not understanding others.

and because we are like that girl, we know that sometimes the words people say when they don't understand anything range from hypocrisy to cruelty. there is no denying this fact. what makes it an irony is that despite knowing it ourselves, we make the very same mistake as the others. saying the same things as others when we ourselves hate it. our human nature. and as usual, it is amusing, and appalling at the same time.

everyone would have said things that they wished they never said. everyone would have been been pissed off by someone who said things that they did not understand. sometimes when we see other people doing things that do not match our moral values or whatever, we tend to accuse them.

'you cannot do this.'

'just do this.'

'there is a way.'

like that boy, we are accessing the situation from our point of view, and not in the shoes of the one suffering. and like the girl said, if there was a way, she would have took it long ago. it made sense that she said that, since no one likes to suffer. not that we are being hypocrites whenever we point out something. it is that sometimes instead of advising people 'have you done this?' or 'perhaps you can try this?' we accuse them and said, 'this is not right' and 'you shouldn't do this'.

without giving a way out, without helping, only accusing. only trying to act as if we know everything with only that few facts we have. because we haven't found out about the whole matter. or perhaps we don't want. maybe it is just that we want to try to act holy too soon. am i not right? like what the girl said, this kind of ignorance, the ignorance of not knowing the full situation and gravity of the matter, as well as the suffering of others, yet trying to act holy and morally upright, this kind of ignorance and behavior is disgusting. don't you think so? i think it is.

or maybe, we didn't want to be holy. we are not saints, we just want to help her. telling others to share their burden with us, telling others that there is a better way to do things. actually, that is very nice. this is no sarcasm. i mean, not everybody would do that, taking on extra burden when everyone has their own load to carry. the intention is good. but sometimes, it might backfire. i thought, if it was a burden no one else can carry, if it was a situation that there was no other way out, then, saying these kind of things, would it be bad?

i don't know. but whatever we do, we need to understand the situation. or perhaps, maybe say, 'i don't know about the situation, but if you think i can help, just call me.' i thought, maybe, this is a good way. don't you think so? we are all humans. we want to walk a path that is easy to walk. no one want to walk a path full of thorns for nothing. and if we can see and walk that path of roses, we would have chosen to do so. if we didn't, it just means that the road is either not available to us or we are not able to see it. in that case, as we walk along that path of thorns, any unconstructive and self-righteous criticism will be to us cruel and fake, something disgusting.

in that path of thorns, if someone try to direct you to another path, not knowing it was a path you could never take, i am pretty sure it will hurt you more. although it came from good intentions, it doesn't deny the fact that you just reinforce to her the idea that a smooth path such as that would never be for her. it doesn't deny the fact that what you said might be very cruel. maybe we just thought, say something about this particular behavior. but if we don't understand the situation and did not find out about it, what we say are nothing more than hypocrisy. like what i said just now, what we say might even end up hurting the others. to tell one that there is a situation and leave it as that, without helping her find out the solution, giving her a hope she can never reach, that is irresponsible. (ahh i feel i am repeating my posts again from 'hope is cruel'.)

in the end, it is once more this ignorance that is disgusting. ignorance, it may not be a crime to be ignorant. but to me, it is a crime to act as if you know everything when you do not and pass judgement on the others or give a false hope. when we say something about the behavior of others, how many of us dare to say honestly to ourselves that we are not passing judgement? naturally, we are always doing that. it is almost as if it is our instinct to do so. funny huh? we don't like others to judge us, yet we always do that to others. amusing, and appalling.

this is a crappy post. there is not even a conclusion. somewhere between while i wrote this, i decided it was time to sleep. and when i woke up, everything is gone. maybe there is nothing here in the first place. if i have to come up with a conclusion, i would say that don't judge others too fast. don't think we understand the situation fully when we don't. and even if we want to help, think carefully what we want to say. because, what we say or do, have a great impact on others. we might help others and give them hope, or we might even push the knife deeper into their wounds.