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'most of our sad and happy experiences will eventually be our life's treasured memories. so, walk through this path and add this little part of your road to your memories.'

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you know who said that? i always never tell my readers who said the lines written at the start of the posts when i used a story to set an example. today i will tell you. it is me. hahax.

this is what i said to my friend when she was, well, is having some troubles. of course i couldn't think of such things and actually say it out. i just commented on her blog when she was said she was down.

one thing i like about being young, which is teenagers and young adults, is that we have the privilege to wear our problems on our faces and treat every little problem as a big big problem. not that i am saying that she is making a mountain out of a molehill. just that, due to our lack of experiences in handling situations like these, we tend to not hide them well. it ended up giving us a lot of stress sometimes and we really felt like we were having one of the world's biggest problem and no one understands.

don't think what i am saying is funny. i am sure at one point of time or another, you are the same. just that, as time passed by and we grow older, we can hide it better. that's all. but of course, when we look back, maybe we can say, 'that's a tiny problem.' but at that time, it was a big problem.

like i said to my friend, life has ups and downs. when we were born we were planned to walk down the road from life, and all the way till death. some of us took a shortcut, which isn't recommended. but whatever road we are taking, there are hills and valleys, up-slopes and down-slopes. but you know, all these make up our road.

we cannot be walking a straight road all the time. sometimes we will walk down into the valley and be sad. sometimes we will put in effort to climb up the hill to enjoy our success. but as they say, what goes up must come down. so, what goes down must come up too.

it is just that, when we are at the top, we don't see ourselves coming down. and when we are at the bottom of the valley we don't see ourselves going up. that is a fact of life. because we are emotional creations who are always always blinded by what we see and chained by what we felt.

if life is one straight road to death, then it wouldn't be fun. it will be easy to walk. but when we look back, life might be pretty boring. or maybe we would not be able to go on all the way. to me, the reasons for ups and downs are simple. the downs are there to train us and make us stronger. the ups are there to show us that there is hope, and to motivate us to climb the next hill. because of encouragement and motivation, training and strength, then we can walk from the our births to our deaths.

when we look back, undoubtedly we will think of many things. maybe you can say:

'wow. that was a hard period.'
'my 20s was the happiest of my time. i had a great job and a great girlfriend.'
'my teenage was really messed up. i did all kinds of stupid things and made my parents sad.'
'my early 20s was a bit sad. i got depressed so easily when i was rejected by the guy i like.'
'my 40s were the most desperate. the economy was doing bad and i had a family to support.'

you know... because of all these significant events, that we find meaning in our lives. that we find some color in our lives. that we feel life is not bad at all (when we look back). the ups are there to give you hope, and the downs are there to let you appreciate the up times when you have.

when you look back, there are some high peaks. and some low bottoms. of course, the fact we looked back most probably meant that we have already got over it.

but what if, like a teenager, like a young adult, we do not have enough strength to climb up a small hill? we do what we always did. we act like we are being forced to climb up mount everest. there is nothing wrong with it. everyone did that.

then this is the time we need help. a small hill or a big mountain. it doesn't matter. because the fact remains that we cannot go over the obstacle. a pit hole and a deep vally doesn't make a difference if the person trapped in it cannot come out.

we need friends. but there are things that they cannot do. what should we do? look to God for help.

God is not your genie. but He cares about you so very much. so if you have a problem you cannot solve, even if it is pulling you out of a shallow and small hole, ask Him for help. sometimes there are only things that He can do that we cannot do.

many times i have looked to Him for help too. take His hand and climb up. take His hand and let Him guide you. He will show you a road that fits you. a road that when you look back, will definitely not regret walking that path. a road where not only you walk, but your King walks with you too.

He is always with you. and if you allow Him, He can pull you out of your sadness. if you follow Him, you will walk the best path you could walk.

it doesn't change the fact that you will fall down and fly up. but, every single moment you experience, every single second you are living, this is part of the road you are walking. little by little, you are going forwards. little by little, you can store them up in your memory. because even though it is a sad memory, even though you it might not be the best memory, they are still your life's moments, your memories. something which money cannot buy. something irreplacable.

the memory of you looking for a job, desperately studying for exams, getting married, your first child... all of them may have pros and cons. but you are the main actor or actress on the stage. keep this little memories into your head.

whatever glory or shame, strength or weakness... put it all behind you. the past is over. what we can do is to learn from mistakes, and look forwards. if we see a goal, we run towards it. if it is a pit, we try to prepare as much as we can.

so today, if you are feeling sad, i won't ask you not to be sad. i thought i should say, remember this part of your life. because it is going to be a special memory in your say, 70 years of life here. it is special.

ps: i am talking about normal people with normal problems. if your hardships are too much for most people, i still hope my post is useful to you.