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one of the things most girls do is to go on a diet. i will knock the head of the person who ask me why. hahax.

ok, next, we all know out of the girls who go on a diet, most of them fail. why? to the other girls, if you want to know why, i think i have found the secret. that is because during dieting, one thought always come to the mind. 'i must not eat. i must not eat.' and the like. it is proven that the more you think about a certain thing, the greater the desire to have it. even in your own resistance to try not to eat, you are still thinking about eating. the thought of (not) eating is being repeated over and over in your head, and thus your desire is manifested and magnified. in the end, you give in. what should girls who failed dieting do? don't even think about eating or resisting about eating. let your thoughts go elsewhere, anything else except eating. sports, work, games, study, tv, makeup, boyfriend, whatever. that way, you will force yourself to get distracted, and you won't think about it anymore. i am writing this, not because i encourage dieting, but because i know you all will not listen to me if i tell you to run 5 miles instead of dieting.

moral of the story? not yet! the same goes for other sins in life. we know it is wrong. and we know we still sin. maybe because we are thinking too much about resisting. the thought then flame up our desires. guys, i know most guys have a problem with lust. oh well, sex. a non-christian friend taught me a biblical knowledge and application which i never knew. she said that guys cannot resist sex. and she said God knows that the guys cannot resist it, because they are made that way. then she said thats why God asked them to 'FLEE' from temptation. reason? if you flee, you won't think about it. even if you do, you can't do anything about it. you don't go back to a girl and ask her for sex after you run away on the first round, right? Joseph fled when he was tempted too. He did not stay back and resist. he fled. other sins too. we got to flee from it and distract ourselves with other things. don't just say, 'i must not do xxx. i must not do xxx.' don't even think about it. ask God for help. He will not give you a temptation knowing you definately have no escape route.

i find that guys, when they talk about the appearance of girls (or women), one of the things they talk about will inevitably be her appearance or looks. and when it comes to that, most guys (i admit not all) will have the habit of calling girls ugly if they feel the girl they are talking about is not pretty. it seemed like for most of them there is no vocabulary called 'average' in their dictionaries. it didn't matter if the guys themselves are ugly or not, if they don't find the girls pretty they just call them ugly.

so i was sitting with a group of guy friends one day when they started talking about girls again. this time they were talking about quite a prominent girl in the school. we all know that in every place, whether school, office, camp or anywhere else there will always be high-profilers, and everyone will know them, whether it is because of their abilities or looks. so, this guy sitting beside me (let's call him A1) was saying that the girl was ugly. i think she looks pretty decent to me, if not pretty. back to him, so he doesn't feel the girl is pretty, hence he called her ugly. the guy in front of me (let's call him A2) heard it, and asked A1 that if he can have sex with the girl for free, would he want it? well, the girl, although not the prettiest girl around, has a what you call a decent figure and decent looks. A1, being asked with such a question, thought for a while, and then said he would take it. what comes next was a bit of a stunner. A2 said, 'if you want to have sex with her, then don't call her ugly.' of course, A1 had nothing to say.

so what is the moral of the story? hmm i have no idea too. but we have to respect each and everyone else and when we talk, we have to be careful. in his own way, A2 is asking A1 to respect the girl, although the way he go about doing it is a little crude. things like appearance is not up to us to decide, and wouldn't it hurt you too if people say you are ugly? so, when we talk, remember to show people the respect they deserve and don't say hurtful things.