About Christianity

i am going to say something very simple today. but i think everyone of us have heard the moral of the story, so i guess it might be pretty boring. hmm, let me see. maybe i should change the story and come up with the same moral of the story? hahax.

everyone of us meet different people at different times. schools, work, social meetings, chance meetings, co-incidence, miracles, saviors, whatever. many people come and many people go. some stay with us longer and some not. some give us good memories and some not. familiar? yea, i guess i am repeating what the others before me had said so far.

i had good friends, and still do. you know, the thing with good friends is that when you are with them, whether man or woman, you think we will always be good friends. because the current friendship is so sweet, so stable. but after a while, as in many years, and experiences, i came to realized that good friends can be split into 2 categories - permanent good friends and temporary good friends. regarding the permanent good friends, i guess there is no need to say anything more.

temporary good friends. i had temporary good friends, both male and female. there were things you would talk to a boy and not to a girl, and things you would talk to a girl and not to a boy. the thing about temporary good friends is that after some time, the relationship falls apart, or got distant. no, there need not neccessary be conflict or strife. it just happens as surely as ice melts and as the sun sets. maybe the setting sun would be a good example. it happens. when you look at it and observe it by the seconds you would not notice the difference. the sun looked as if it is not setting. it looked as if it would always be there. turn your back, go into the toilet and come out in say, 2 minutes? the sky darkened. it is fast. same as temporary friends, before you know it, they are gone.

maybe not gone. maybe not a total breakdown. but surely, the relationship is not as close as before. is there anything you can do? sometimes. sometimes not. i tried to save it sometimes, sometimes i don't. so far, none of them worked. if it did, it would not be called a temporary friendship. the old saying goes, it takes 2 hands to clap. builidng a relationship is like buiding bridges. you build, and the other side at least need to connect it to his/her side, even if he/she does not want to build it.

a relationship, i take it as building and connecting bridges. building bridges can be done by either 2 or 1 person. certainly it is harder for one person to build. but the fact is it can be done. the thing that cannot be done is the connecting part. you may build the best bridge, but ultimately the act of connecting to the other side, the heart of the person, lies with the person's decision. you may persuade, talk, scold, cry, whatever. you can influence, but not make the decision. if the other side do not even bother to connect it, there is nothing you can do, as far as my limited experiences tell me. sometimes you try too hard, and people think you are irritating. that is when you know you have to give up. at least it is for me.

why am i writing this? because i have lost another temporary good friend. so maybe when i am writing a blog i thought of this. of course, this is not to say that if your friendship is going to be temporary, you will not give your best. you never know if that good relationship will turn permanent or not. even if it does not, a relationship should require that both parties give their best. of course, i am saying this as a close relationship between 2 parties, not just aquaintances. sometimes we touch people's lives, sometimes they touch our lives. if we can make a positive impact on others, even if it is temporary, does it really matter? maybe, God put you there temporary to make an impact on that person's life. and when your job is done, you will need to go to another person. maybe that is the whole plan. of course, it is a pity to see a good relationship gone like that. it just break down. suddenly, you might not feel close at all. but, maybe out there, there is another person waiting for you.

if you want a good friend, the moral of the story i want to say is, Jesus is your permanent Friend. actually, does my moral of the story fit the story itself?