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Roads
By pencil leads on Feb 10, 2009 | In Reflections | Send feedback »
they say life is like a journey, and that when you are born you start walking, and until the end when you reach the destination you die. well essentially it is true, in a way. but they often missed out many important parts. from one end to another, there are many roads to take. one road split to many roads, and further split up, and sometimes they join back.
life is like a road in which when we walk, we cannot turn back. maybe small mistakes is like taking a wrong sideroad, you can go back to the main road easily. a big mistake would be like taking a road that turned away from the highway. no matter the case, there is no turning back, because what is done is done, and time cannot turn back. maybe, you can say, one second of our life is like walking one step.
of course, no 2 people can take the exact same road from one end to another. there may be people who will walk the same road for a period of time, but we are all designed to have a road of our own. a road which only we can walk, a road which only we are suitable to walk.
and then some of you might say, that is unfair. some will say others have a peaceful road made of gold, while their road is filled with wars and poverty. some might say they see others having a busy road with many people coming in and out, while their road is just an empty road without a soul. some of them will say they have a smooth road, while theirs is a road full of holes and traps. i hope you get the analogy...
because we are created differently, and put in different situations, we have different paths to take. a path we have no choice but to take, or a path that we felt it is suitable for us. as we walk along the road, sometimes we might see other people and be envious of them. why are their roads so smooth and peaceful? why do the people who walk on that road seem so carefree? why do i have to walk my road? is it even fair?
sometimes we take things into our own hand. we try to get out of our path, and to get into the other lane. sometimes we succeed, sometimes we fail. but maybe, in the end, we are not happy. you might get what you aimed for, but is that what you really wanted? maybe, in the end, you realized that you have wasted your life for nothing.
maybe i have no right to make this post. because as my usual flaw of my posts are, i did not take into account those who are suffering a lot. maybe, if i am an african child starving, or a chinese girl sold as a sex slave, or maybe an iraqi child growing up in the war zone, i would risk and bet my life and try to my last breath to get out of the situation.
i thought if i say 'stick to your own lot, everyone' i will be saying irresponsible things, saying things i did not understand. because if i am one of the people suffering like this, i thought i will definately look at the person who said that to me as a hypocrite.
i think i got my point out. there are roads you do not want to take. put it simply, in our normal lives, why are some people born ugly and others pretty? why are some stupid and some intelligent? some sick and others healthy? some have a happy family while some have a broken family. why do some have many friends while the others have no friends? the list goes on. to tell everyone to stick to their own road is saying irresponsible things. because at one point or another, everyone, even in their most blessed situation, would want to change their road to a better path.
i think i am still going to say something irresponsible. because i could not think of any other way to say it. sugarcoating what i am going to say is just going to make me insincere and fake. so, if you are offended, i am really sorry. maybe because i have a blessed life, so i could actually say such things as if it was nothing.
i think, God put us there so we would walk that path. walk down a path He intended us to walk. a path only we can take. everyone has a purpose to fulfil, something we have to do. in order to do that, we need to walk that path.
have you ever met someone who said, 'i understand. i used to be like you...'? when we have troubles, sometimes we met people who had the same problems with us. they give us advices. they encourage us. they tell us, 'it is a hard road, but you can do it.' because there are people like that, so we can continue walking. because there are people like that, we can pick ourselves up when we fall, that we did not fall and not get up.
maybe, as you walk along the road, you will find people who find that path tedious to walk. then you, who already overcame, who already is familiar with the lane, can help or walk together with the people. because only you walked that path, so you are more suitable to help them than the rest. the guy who walked the lane beside you could not do a better job than you. because the guy who walked a different lane, could never understand the feelings of those who walk your lane.
maybe, you find your path dark, or colorless. maybe it is a scary road, or a tiring road. there are roads that have obvious difference from the rest. those who are in a civilized society are obviously more fortunate than those in war zones, despite all their problems such as worrying about finance. those who are starving are obviously less well off than those who have to scrimp and save to buy bread for dinner.
that is the extreme case. if we lessen the gap, we can see some people who need to support their families while studying. some have to endure the nonsense of an alcoholic or gambler in the family. compared to the rich man's son/daughter whose worry is they have only $100 dollars a week for allowance, the former is obviously less well off.
what a dull road. maybe it is not even dull. maybe it is just plain dark. you might wonder, how long more do you have to walk? or maybe, is there even a need to continue walking? in fact, is there anyone who cares if you continue walking?
if i have to say, i would say yes. there is someone who cares. God cares for you. if you are sad, He is sad. He might not transfer you to another lane, but He will walk down the road with you. He might not give you a smooth road made of gold to walk, but He will give you a pair of shoes so you can continue walking. He might not give you a detailed layout of your path, but He will lead you in front, to guide you. He promised that if you follow Him, you will find your rewards at the end of the road. if you walk with Him, the scariest road can turn into the most peaceful road. the darkest or the colorless road can turn into a bright and colorful place.
and then you might say, you don't believe in God. because you find no comfort for all the sufferings. because you don't see a God in all the time you were forced to take that road.
i cannot explain why is that. nor can i give a reason. because i did not go through that, so i do not understand. and because i did not go through it, i am not fit to criticize you. but if i have to say something, even if it is out of my place, is to take that very first step of faith. accept Christ into your heart, into your life. it might be a dramatic experience, it might not. but i know your life will change. you might not believe, but if you don't take the first step to follow Him, your road might forever be dark and scary. if you don't take the first step to walk with Him, you might be forever standing on the same spot, unable to move. and then, instead of gaining a loving relationship with God, you might lose more and more things.
i guess it is out of my place to say this. but if you can, why not take the first step? just a small little step will do. God will know what to do when you hold His hand.