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according to an article i read, it said that the number of friends one can have is limited. that is because to maintain a friendship one need to put in time and effort. and there is only so much time and effort we can spare for friends. fair enough.

today, i talked to my friend whom i did not talk to for a long long time. i never met her. years ago, i just got this request from msn that she wanted to add me to her list. as it turned out, she did not request to add me in the first place. but then, we decided to be friends. seemed like we decided to make use of that error in the system to make a new friend.

of course we had talked, not often, but enough to maintain a relationship. then after one day of a normal conversation, we stopped talking to each other. still i had not met her yet, even though we live pretty near to each other. yes very near, maybe an hour's travel. and we didn't know how each other look like. both of us don't have the habit of putting our photos up online. yea, for some reason we just stopped talking. we did not quarrel, and there were no arguements. perhaps we were just waiting for each other to talk to us. she did clear her msn list, and so i did to my own list as well. i don't know why, but she kept me in her list, and i kept her in mine.

today, i decided to talk to her. i had wanted to do so for a few months now, but didn't really had the chance. it was a pretty pleasant conversation. she remembered what our last conversation was about. you might know what your friend said to you the last time you all talk. but to me, that was amazing. because, thinking back, we had not talked for....6 years. yes. we had never met, never really improved our friendship to a very close level, but she remembered our last conversation 6 years ago.

of course, i was happy. she not only remembered me, she remembered what we talked about. and for me, i did remember what we talk about too. the memory God gave us is such a wonderful thing isn't it? i cannot remember all the formulas i need to remember for my exams, but i can remember things like this. stuffs like this may not help me pass my exams, but to me, they are more important than the formulas and the theories.

i told her i will talk to her again soon, because she had to go off after around 2 hours or so. i told her, this time, it will not be 6 years. she too, agreed that. i don't know how you feel after reading this. but for me, my mood have been pretty good because of this. i had found back a friend. and i hope that our friendship will be better. we might never meet, we might never know how each other look like. but does that matter? to you it might, but to me it does not. friendship is not based on appearances, it is based on how much both of us are willing to put in the effort. it is based on trust. i have no idea how much closer we will get, but i hope it will be much better than now. perhaps after dropping from friends to aquantainces, we might become friends once again. it had been 6 years. she told me time is rather unforgiving. how true.

moral of the story? i had 'gained' back another friend. what about you? do you have hurts from previous friends? or did you simply stopped talking to them? if you have, if someone pop up in your mind, don't hesitate to drop them a message. call them. patch up with them. renew your friendship. friendship is an amazing thing. don't delay it. who knows? tomorrow she may not be there anymore. tomorrow you might not be around anymore. no, i am not cursing you. but don't let a moment of laziness make you regret the rest of your life. i am lucky. i got her back after 6 years. what about you? will you gain your friend back?

i find that guys, when they talk about the appearance of girls (or women), one of the things they talk about will inevitably be her appearance or looks. and when it comes to that, most guys (i admit not all) will have the habit of calling girls ugly if they feel the girl they are talking about is not pretty. it seemed like for most of them there is no vocabulary called 'average' in their dictionaries. it didn't matter if the guys themselves are ugly or not, if they don't find the girls pretty they just call them ugly.

so i was sitting with a group of guy friends one day when they started talking about girls again. this time they were talking about quite a prominent girl in the school. we all know that in every place, whether school, office, camp or anywhere else there will always be high-profilers, and everyone will know them, whether it is because of their abilities or looks. so, this guy sitting beside me (let's call him A1) was saying that the girl was ugly. i think she looks pretty decent to me, if not pretty. back to him, so he doesn't feel the girl is pretty, hence he called her ugly. the guy in front of me (let's call him A2) heard it, and asked A1 that if he can have sex with the girl for free, would he want it? well, the girl, although not the prettiest girl around, has a what you call a decent figure and decent looks. A1, being asked with such a question, thought for a while, and then said he would take it. what comes next was a bit of a stunner. A2 said, 'if you want to have sex with her, then don't call her ugly.' of course, A1 had nothing to say.

so what is the moral of the story? hmm i have no idea too. but we have to respect each and everyone else and when we talk, we have to be careful. in his own way, A2 is asking A1 to respect the girl, although the way he go about doing it is a little crude. things like appearance is not up to us to decide, and wouldn't it hurt you too if people say you are ugly? so, when we talk, remember to show people the respect they deserve and don't say hurtful things.