Admitting It Is Your Problem

i realized, that humans, always have the tendency to not want to admit that the actual fault lies with oneself.

Follow up:

if something goes wrong, it is always the other's fault. if something is not smooth, it is because the system is screwed. even if you talk about it and maybe say some of it is your own fault, eventually, most humans will make the other party, be it a human or a system, to be the one at the larger fault and hence the justification for your own mistakes, or that because of that larger wrong done to you, your minor wrong actually is insignificant, or that your minor wrong does not deserve such treatment. the worst case scenario, some people just believe they can do the wrong but the others have no right to do it.

almost every time, humans just do that. when telling others about their problems, they make the mistake of amplifying and stressing the other's fault and tone down or even totally omit out their own's. and then they lived life as if people let them down, like they are some tragic character in a drama. and in doing so, they made the other side to be so bad that they are probably not worth a single thing. in so doing, you effectively reduce the other's chance to explain himself or herself to zero. and then the last thing comes. when the time comes for the other side to explain, our tragic character will probably say something like, 'it's pointless anymore. it is too late.' and then with that walk away as if you are big hearted enough to forget and forgive everything, as if you are so hurt you need time off to heal your near fatal wound.

but the way i see it, people who do that are probably just running away. because, you are probably afraid to hear the truth. what if, the truth is that you are wrong? what if, he or she said the undeniable fact that it is actually all your fault? and because of your own inconsideration and selfishness, you actually wronged the other side and caused him or her to be put down so much? that's why, you have to run away. so that there is no need for you to face this horrible fact.

because you do realize, that when problems arise, it does not involve just 2 parties. your friends, his/her friends. they are all involved when both sides tell their own stories. and in so doing, you also cause your side to be against the one who supposedly did you wrong. the impact of wonderfully wronging someone is great. and the burden of it is not that light sometimes.

in every single one of us, we know the truth. even if we try to lie to the whole world or make it seemed that we are really the one who have it real hard, ultimately, we cannot lie to ourselves.

even if the truth is hard to hear, one should always embrace the truth. because not doing so means refusing to admit the fault is your own, even though many many many times, i do agree, the truth sucks. the truth is harsh, the truth may even be cruel. but still, the truth is the truth.

no one likes to be sad. no one loves to cry. no one wants to drink beer alone in the middle of the night. no one loves to feel the pain in the heart and be reminded of every single sad thing in whatever they do. but still, the truth is the truth. and while embracing the truth, we can know, we can understand ourselves more, and know what is wrong with us.

all this, is so that we can decide to change or not, to decide what to change. so that if we honestly, with our conscience do the right thing, at least, somehow, we can hope to prevent the next sadness from coming so fast, or to eliminate it altogether.

this is life.

humans are simply amazing. sometimes i just cannot help but be amused, at others, and at myself.

like all the others, i am just a human who make this kind of lame mistakes too. sometimes.