Dealing With Pain

'do you feel love?'
'yes'
'do you feel sadness?'
'yes'
'do you feel hate?'
'i don't know'
'just forget everything. that's the easiest way to deal with it. but, if you want to be truly strong, then bear all of it. you shouldn't throw away your feelings. no matter how painful it is. but that is a very tough road. it's your choice which path you will take.

Follow up:

in one way or another, everyone feels pain in at least one part of his or her life. sometimes the pain is small, sometimes it is big. sometimes it feels like unbearable. be it the death of someone, a regret we have done, or simply, falling out of love.

to others, it may seem that our pain is small, and others have much more things to worry about. but it doesn't deny the fact that at that point in time, our troubles and our pain has become unbearably hard to endure.

some took a short while to recover, some took a long while. in many situations, the negative emotions breed another one. and it is not unusual for hate to form out of it. at least i admit, i do experience hate a few times in my life.

like what was said at the above, to forget everything is the easiest way to deal with it. sealing the pain deep in your heart, and then forgetting it. not thinking about it, engaging yourself in various activities or perhaps starting a new relationship (if your pain is caused by a broken relationship) is what many would do. in fact my friends told me to take this road.

the above conversation came from an anime. despite many people thinking that anime is useless and for kids, surprisingly there are many times they are able to teach you many things. and as i watched it, it reflected the situation i am in.

i am sure, among the 7 billion people in this world now, among those who read happen to come and read my post, that some of you are feeling pain. i thought, rather than forgetting, perhaps we should take the harder road, to bear everything.

because our feelings are real, our experiences are real, our tears are real and our pain is also real. to forget everything means to deny and cancel out the memories and the feelings we had, to blot out a certain part of our lives.

to accept it. to remember the feelings. to forgive (although i am still not able to do this yet). perhaps at the end of it, we will really come out to be a better and a stronger person. if you fall down, and if it doesn't cripple you, when you stand up again, you will become a stronger person. that's what they say.

there are many times life is unfair to us. life is cruel. life is harsh. we are penalized for something that is not our fault. we are treated in a manner we do not deserve. yet we see others who deserve all the punishment living happily. and sometimes we ask a childish question: why me?

to be honest i am unable to answer that, for i am still trying to find out the answer myself. but i supposed, everyone of us has to find our own answers. what people tells us we probably know everything by head knowledge. it is the last step of accepting everything that becomes ridiculously hard.

some of my friends said that when you accept it, everything becomes much easier. when you forget it, everything becomes much more bearable. that's what they said, for they have gone through the same thing.

yet, for us to do the same, for each one of us, we have to struggle to find our own answers. to find our own solutions. to find our own path. each one of us is made different, and we have different ways to come to the end.

to everyone out there who is experiencing the same thing, or a much harsher pain, or maybe a smaller scale sadness, i would say, don't forget everything. accept it, even though it is hard. remember everything, take in everything, bear with everything. for they are a part of your life. and these are all your emotions and your pain. they are a chapter in the story of your life.

at least, this is what i am going to do, even though i have not fully achieve it. and for the rest of you, if you are feeling the same way as me, i wish you, good luck.